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Men Have Feelings Too

Most of the time I imagine I'm writing for a woman who is kind of like me. My book, The Pursuit of Motherhood, is dedicated to ‘all the women who know how it feels’. So when a man tells me they’ve read it, I’m always a bit surprised as well as really very touched...

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Don’t Mention The War

‘Don’t mention the war. I mentioned it once but I think I got away with it.’  Basil Fawlty, Fawlty Towers, Episode 6 – The Germans Next month it will be a year since I officially came out about my infertility. When I was recently asked to speak at the Fertility Show...

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Get Thee To A Nunnery

Maxine Peake is a great actress. She’s about to play Hamlet in the Manchester Royal Exchange production of Shakespeare’s tragedy which opens this week. There are not many women who would, could or should take that part on. However, in the last month she’s also become...

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Back To School

So, go on admit it, have you bought any new stationary yet? There’s nothing like a trip to Ryman to put you in the mood for autumn. Tomorrow it’s back to school for many and for those of us who don’t have kids it’s back to the months that end in ‘ber’. Or should I...

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An Ethical Dilemma

There’s no doubt that medical advances in the field of fertility have made many women’s dreams come true. But with it come huge ethical dilemmas. This month the condition of Down Syndrome has hit the headlines on more than one occasion. It serves to show what complex...

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Meet Me At The Pearly Gates

Sometimes I think I’ve had it bad. Sometimes I think I’ve had it worse than most. Sometimes I think when I get to the Pearly Gates of Fertility Heaven I’m going to be rewarded big time. They’ll sit me alongside Mother Teresa and give me the brood I’ve longed for. And...

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A Great Face For Radio

I think I must have a great face for radio (!?) because following my interview on baby envy for the World Service I’ve been invited on again. On Friday at 11am, I’m going to be in a documentary on BBC Radio 4 called A Family Without A Child presented by the...

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The Punctuation of Life

Since I started trying to conceive, I have developed an uneasy relationship with alcohol. Anyone who has read my book will know. There’s a fine line for me between the nectar of the gods and the hangover from hell. And this week I drank with the devil… A little while...

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Beyond the Headlines

A couple of weeks ago, I saw a headline in The Telegraph that made me laugh out loud. It read: ‘Cycling Does Not Cause Infertility.’ Phew. The fact that I no longer have to feel guilty about all those holidays in France which we spent pootling round the vineyards is...

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Fur Babies

To fur, or not to fur: that is the question. In the absence of a baby, I’ve been wondering whether it might be time to get a pet. On balance, I think I’m a cat person. But I love dogs too. In fact, anything with a tail is good with me (well, apart from rats). It’s...

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Campaigning Mode

I’ve recently been asked to join the Board of Infertility Network UK (IN UK). They asked me to attend a ‘taster’ meeting in June where I tried them and they tried me. We liked each other and I’m delighted. IN UK is the national charity for infertility. On limited...

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Joy and Melancholy

I’ve been thinking a lot about words this week. How sometimes they say it exactly as it is; and sometimes you can’t seem to find the right one. I’ve been thinking about how I overuse the words ‘totally’ and ‘one hundred percent’. How I often say things I wish I hadn’t...

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D is for Dolly

When I told friends and colleagues that I was going to Glastonbury Festival this year, their mouths dropped open in amazement before uttering a single word followed by a string of question marks: ‘YOU???’ YES, ME!!! Stop Press. I am writing this from a field. And a...

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I Heart Barren Betty

I heart Barren Betty. I wanted the word ‘heart’ to be a symbol but my technological knowhow doesn’t pass muster. I thought about using the word ‘love’ instead but it seemed a bit intimate - for someone I’ve never met. Barren Betty is a blogger. Not her real name. The...

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Who’s Counting?

I wanted to call this blog ‘Statistics Schmistics’ but I was worried you might think I’d made another typo. For all the eagle-eyed readers among you who noticed I spelt Kirstie Allsopp’s name wrong last week, thank you for being polite and not mentioning it. I’m...

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I Am A Feminist

All hail Kirstie Allsopp (for non-UK readers, she’s the queen of prime time property-hunting TV). This week she stuck her head above the three-bedroom semi and told the world - in an interview for The Telegraph – what age women should be having children. 27...

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Right To Reply

I love writing my blog. Those are five words that I never thought I’d say in the same sentence. In fact, I never thought I’d see the words ‘my blog’ next to each other. But there you go. Conception miracles do happen to me, even if they only relate to my giving birth...

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Zita, The Embryologist and Me

A couple of months ago I was involved in an event with Zita West, the UK’s baby-making guru. She said lots of interesting things but one in particular has stuck with me. Apparently whenever she meets a couple for the first time who are having difficulties conceiving...

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Good Morning Britain

It’s a good job I’m a morning person because on Thursday at 6.20am I was sitting on the sofa of ITV’s Good Morning Britain with Susanna Reid and Kate Garraway. They were looking radiant in blue (Susanna) and orange (Kate). Whereas I made the televisual mistake of...

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In Search of Lost Time

The danger of writing about your struggle with infertility is that it’s all too easy to wallow in introspection. A lot of people are guilty of being their own favourite subject, and writing a book and a blog does nothing to discourage it. But anyone who knows me well,...

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Jessica Hepburn

Jessica Hepburn

Jessica Hepburn is one of the UK’s leading voices on fertility and family, as well as endurance sport (even though she doesn’t have children and is the most unlikely athlete). She has become a pioneer in inspiring people to live as big and bravely as possible when life doesn’t go to plan.

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