Spreading the secret

by | 1 Nov 2013

There’s writing a book about infertility…then there’s publishing it….and then there’s Grazia

This week I accepted an offer of a feature in Grazia magazine on my story (well part of my story) about infertility. I have been tentatively telling people for a while now that I have written a book on my ‘pursuit of motherhood’ but suddenly I’m scared. In fact, I’m totally terrified. It’s made me realize, yet again, how much secrecy and shame there is around this subject. I don’t know what I’m more worried about, people’s sympathy or their schadenfreude. Either way, for one week only, I’m going to be up there with Jennifer Aniston facing the world on the question of why I haven’t had a baby yet. But I’ve decided to feel the fear. I’m doing it anyway. It’s a story that needs to be told, and I think (I hope) I’m ready to tell it.

Every week, starting from today, I’m going to write a blog and pose a question. I’ve never thought of myself as a blogger (I am embarrassed to admit I didn’t even have a twitter and facebook account until last weekend). But I’ve always been good at questions. I’m Michael Parkinson in a dress.  So this week’s question is…

Who are you keeping your infertility a secret from?

Answers below – please.


  1. Caroline Crewe-Read

    You are amazing. And brave. And an inspiration – you are right to share your story.

  2. Liz Elston Mayhew

    I’m so glad you are being open and honest about such a difficult subject. Well done brave lady.

    • thepursuitofmotherhood

      Thank you Liz. The support I’ve had over the last couple of days has been phenomenal. It makes me believe that I’m saying something that needs to be said. Thank you for yours. It means a lot.