Different Paths

by | 18 Jan 2015

The blog is back! My new bi-weekly instalment, as promised. And because bi-weekly is such a badly-behaved word that means two completely different things, I’ll just add for clarification that from now on I’ll be writing fortnightly and not twice weekly (I wouldn’t do that to you!).

Today’s blog is about the amazing Monica Owsichek who I am delighted has agreed to answer my Fertility Proust Questionnaire. Like me, Monica is another woman who has been through the drugs and despair of fertility treatment but has not come out the other side with a baby. She first contacted me several months ago to tell me that she had a dream of giving couples going through treatment access to some of the information that she and her husband never had. Several months later when I sent her my questionnaire, the thing that most struck me of all her answers was that her greatest fear is not to turn the struggles in her life into something positive. It’s a feeling I deeply share.

But Monica, like so many women who have been through fertility treatment, is made of determined stuff. I’m delighted to say that tomorrow her dream comes true when she launches her first ever Telesummit – The Facts of Your Fertility – with over twenty talks by different experts – all completely free. Please do sign up, join in and listen.

For those of you who have read my past Proust questionnaires you may recall that the last question I ask all my interviewees is what motto they live their life by. Mine is: if you don’t do it, you never will. Monica’s answer was: everybody has a different path in life. We can either follow it or fight it. The moving thing is that by following hers, she’s helping others to win the fight.

For them, from me, to her: thank you.



  1. kiftsgate

    Beautiful and very inspiring answers. Thanks for this! x

  2. JD

    I feel for women who experience the pain of infertility. What I cannot endorse, however, are those who claim to be healers due to having experienced some kind of pain or unfortunate circumstance. We seem to be living in a time when anyone can hang a shingle with the words “I’m a healer” simply for having experienced something. Often these people are not fully healed themselves and — as a consequence — unconsciously and subtly pass along their pain and anger to their “clients”.